Akpabio’s Henchmen and the Obsession with Insulting Women
The Nigerian Senate is gradually turning into a Nollywood or Hollywood-style drama series, where new episodes unfold almost daily on the floor of the National Assembly. It is embarrassing to see mature men on national media behaving in a manner that many believe reflects immaturity.
In recent times, Nigeria has witnessed disturbing verbal attacks by prominent male public officials against women, triggering nationwide outrage and raising concerns about respect, leadership maturity, and the example being set for younger generations.
One of the most notable incidents at the Senate Committee on Ethics and Privileges hearing on Tuesday was the verbal attack launched by Senator Onyekachi Nwaebonyi against former Minister of Education, Dr. Oby Ezekwesili.
During the proceedings, tensions flared when Nwaebonyi resorted to derogatory remarks, labeling Ezekwesili an “insult to womanhood, a whore” and a “hooligan.” His outburst came amid discussions surrounding Senate President Godswill Akpabio’s dismissive response to suspended Senator Natasha Akpoti over an alleged seating arrangement dispute, which ultimately escalated into sexual harassment allegations.
These incidents have reignited discussions about how leaders should conduct themselves in public discourse and whether these outbursts reflect deeper societal attitudes toward women, including how these men treat their wives and daughters at home. Public office demands emotional intelligence, maturity, and restraint.
Unfortunately, some Nigerian politicians have displayed a tendency to lash out at women, resorting to personal attacks rather than engaging in constructive dialogue. True leadership strength is not in how loudly one insults an opponent but in the ability to control emotions, especially in heated situations.
A mature leader understands that restraint is a powerful tool, demonstrating wisdom rather than weakness. Many argue that silence or a measured response could have defused tensions. Women, like men, have the right to express opinions, challenge authority, and hold leaders accountable.
Men in power must recognize that their words carry significant weight. Instead of responding with insults or condescension, measured words, or even silence, could have prevented unnecessary controversies.
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History has shown that leaders who respond with patience and dignity emerge stronger, while those who react dismissively or aggressively often invite backlash and damage their reputations. When public figures use foul language or engage in verbal attacks, they normalize disrespect and incivility in public discourse.
Young people, who look up to leaders as role models, may begin to see aggression and insults as acceptable tools for resolving conflicts. This culture of public disrespect deepens societal divisions, discourages women from participating in politics, and perpetuates the notion that women must tolerate verbal abuse in both professional and personal settings.
Leaders should ask themselves: If they would not tolerate such behavior from their children or subordinates, why exhibit it in public? Leadership training in emotional intelligence is essential. Public officials should undergo training on conflict resolution, emotional control, and responsible communication.
Leadership is not just about power, it’s about composure. Strengthening ethical standards in government institutions is necessary. The National Assembly and other government bodies should have clear ethical guidelines on public discourse, with consequences for those who violate them.
Public condemnation of verbal attacks must continue. Civil society, media, and citizens should consistently call out leaders who engage in abusive speech to ensure that such behavior does not go unchallenged. Encouraging more women in leadership can help shift the culture of politics from one dominated by aggression to one that embraces inclusivity and respect.
Greater female representation in government can foster a more balanced and civil political environment. A shift in societal attitudes is also crucial. Beyond politics, Nigerians must reflect on how women are treated in homes, workplaces, and public spaces. The way leaders treat women in power often mirrors broader societal norms.
The verbal insults hurled at women in Nigerian politics are more than just words; they reflect a culture that still struggles with gender respect and emotional restraint. Leaders must recognize that their conduct shapes national discourse and influences future generations.
Maturity, respect, and emotional intelligence should be the defining traits of public officials, not aggression and disrespect. Ultimately, the question remains: If these leaders treat women this way in public, how do they behave in their private lives?
And more importantly, will Nigerians continue to tolerate such behaviour in leadership?
Zekeri Idakwo Laruba is a Fact-checker and Assistant Editor with Economic confidential. He can be reached via [email protected]
